Thursday, June 25, 2009 6/25/2009 10:18:00 AM
lesson # 37---TRIPLE F fear, forgive & forget
Read Face reading... by joey yap. i think i mentioned abt this before in my very old posts...but i still would like to talk abt it.:)
it's a complicated one becos u are not just looking at 1 feature at a time to dtermine what kinda person is he(for convenience sake). and to add on to the complication, it kinda involve more than just looking at others....it makes one who is judging, to feel incompetent and depresssed, if ur features consist of very bad combi of features....and that's me.
erm.. come to think about it....im kinda lazy to talk abt it. haha.. go borrow urself ~
erm.. do we
forgive and forget? does this involve any religion?? i'll say, even if u're not a religious person, u can do it.
it's one's own teaching..parental, by experience.... by observation..... etc.
we gotta learn this virtue... becos it will only makes us more benevolent and 'high class' kekeke!
'ji chou' or bear grudge makes our view narrow. and we dun see from the 3rd party's view.. and hence, keep thinking it's other pple's fault and not ours or partly ours.
but i think i gotta change alot of myself too. becos.... whenever pple thinks i'm in a wrong.. i tend to give reasons of why i did wrong. whati was thinking was.. to let pple know that why i'm in a wrong.. ie--to explain why i'm wrong.
But i never really stop to think why i'm in the wrong. perhaps i'm always blaming others... or can i say i want the person to know what i'm thinking .. and perhaps he will see from my point of view.. and understand me... and dun keep finding fault of me.
and i seriously dun understand why pple or human in general..... LOVES TO FIND FAULT ?????? cant they just try to understand?? put themselves in teh shoes of others?? gosh! i hate them and i hate myself for that......rrrrrr
ok... no complaining.... and one more thing.. i realised......
dun go around lecturing pple....dun preach and dun spread ur teaching cos pple dun like it. they dun like changes and even if its for their good...they will dislike u becos u 'wash their face in public'.
cos you're not their parents or teacher... and whatever wrong they do.. just keep quiet. why?? why do we keep to ourselves? becos we are selfish.. we will only see and learn ourselves... and full stop.. dun preach dun spread. but but
say it like a nice way if there is a need.... in priv... and smile. no body wants to look stupid and that is a weakness... so when pple fear that they will look stupid, they get angry... that's perfectly normal
cos of the brain structure... the fear we feel in our... amygdala, results in some chemical to induce our anger.. to battle against the thing that we view threatening.
But i'll just.. let others do the lecturing.. i dun want.
i fear.