L&G, as u can see abve, the opposition hasnt not got the slightest idea that the prop would be late due to something happening in her house because she didnt check her hp. and being very eager to note what the teacher's lecturing, she pays full attention, hoping that she would capture all the words said, and aid her in getting a better grade this time. and of course!

L&G, with the initial idea that the prop will be late as usual, she believes that she has to listen harder, so she can make sure she has all the essential information to provide when the prop comes.

along this direction, the opp did not think much.

she was then shown by Coco, rgding a msg stating how angry ws the prop with the opp not replying her msg. eagerly, the opp read the msg on her hp, and explains herself.

However L&G, opp ws wrongly accused of being a selfish person, not caring abt her friend.

upon reading her msg, about 'something happened at home', the opp did not dare to ask the prop what happened. What flashed across the mind was something terrible that she thought had happened to her family, e.g. (touch wood) someone fainted and needs to go the hospital, or someone got into a serious accident'.

L&G, please justify this thought the opp had, and see if this is a reasonable thought. and she believes tat by not asking about it would mean to respect the prop's privacy.

ok, L&G, Let's just assume that all are fine with her family, but something else cropped up. I would really want to find out too, but wouldnt a face 2 face talk be a better way to understand the whole thing, rather than spending money on msging each other, and spending away your attention, when you should not.

quoting from above,' N cant ur copy from others' , 'i could have go into class at 3.20pm'

L&G, would copying others means we're writing all of the essential information down? is the 'other's' as caring as the prop's friends (including the opp) to copy down for you what are the essentials? i doubt they even noe if you exist. pardon my straightforwardness my dear adjudicators but isnt it obvious that only friends would be more meticulous than the classmates? would frens of fren do that for someone they are not close to?

L&G, the break starts at 250pm. and class starts at 2pm. msg was sent out at 3.10pm and 2.10pm respectively... if the opp were to constantly check her hp, she would have replied the first 2.10pm msg immediately, if not... about 40 mins later. that is the time difference between msg sent and the break time. However, opp did not as she was busy with the stats questions . So the break ended at 3.10 and the prop sent a msg at 310 asking the opp to tell her when was the break.

quoting from above, " hey i may nt b coming to stats clss today cos something crop up at home. i'm stucked at home now."

ofcourse, whoever read this msg would have the first thought to be like this: " huh? what happened? how come you're NOT coming to class?"

naturally, the prop would send another msg immediately, CLARIFYING that it's a MAY and not a NOT. and at this time, she would also ask the opp to tell her when is the first break.

Now L&G, after the above msg, prop began to blame on opp that she is selfish for not sending one message. and prop claimed that she would be in school at 3.20pm if opp had replied her.

at this time, i would liek to let L&G know that the Opp knows that prop would rather come in during class breaks rather than coming in when the lesson is going on. So if the prop had read the msg, she would of course, send a msg even before the 2nd msg at 3.10pm comes. and like i said, unfortunately, the opp did not even take her phone out of her bag.

However, L&G, prop could have come to school immediately after she settled her issue at home and not wait for one person's msg, or rather two msgs. she could have come to our class to check out through the window. Or she could call if she was really desperate.

Quoting from her blog, "It's a class i really dun wish to miss...but i could have at least attended the SECOND HALF of the tutorial IF NOT FOR THE UNBOTHERED ATTITUDE FROM MY SUPPOSEDLY 'GOOD FRIENDS'...I DIDN'T GET TO ATTEND THE ENTIRE CLASS! " and above, " i dun want to miss stats but something really happned at home."

so can we say that the prop was contradicting herself by saying on one side that she dun want to miss stats, and on the other side, not COMING IN for stats class, because she felt it was embarrassing for being late? or what else? tell me prop! since the prop was already late, why extend the lateness?

But L&G, can we pause a little while and weigh the pros and cons? is stats more important or the pride, the 'face' is more impt? since the prop had missed about 1 hour's lesson, she could have come in right after she arrived at school and not wait in the school until there's a 2nd break, or worst, until the class ended.

A transition from the first contention, i'll like to quote from her blog

"it's Lilin's 21st Birthday today! Her present is w me...and EVEN IF her present is not w me, I WILL STILL CHOOSE TO GO FOR THE CELEBRATION! THIS IS CALLED BEST FRIEND...YOU DON'T LOVE OR CARE FOR YOURSELF MORE THAN YOUR BEST FRIEND!"

L&G, i wont be questioning the prop what constitutes of a 'best friend' or what are the traits of a best friend should be because, everyone knows that 21st bday marks the person's milestone in life and not going for it would be rather rude.

Let's just all put ourselves in the shoes of the prop, L&G. imagine that you had something terrible happening to you but enough to still leave the house and attend the class, and go for a happy occasion in the night. Imagine, yourself coming to school and not attending the impt class because you're late and you feel so darn embarrassed. (pardon my lingo)

now, the class had ended, you're in school, accomplished nothing but feeling regretful. What now? no repeat of the lesson cos you're going to the happy occasion. what's next? Let's suggest, msging and calling your friends to meetup to discuss what have you missed and what are the impt points. but before that, allow me to remind you further, that you could ask the teacher what are the important topic she touched on.

there is no other better option but this one since you don't dare to go in.

L&G, let's change to another scenario.

imagine the same thing, that you had something terrible happening to you but enough to still leave the house and attend the class an go for a happy occasion in the night. Imagine, yourself coming to school, stepped into the room and realised that everyone is listening intently and suddenly moved their eyes and fixed on you. You feel damn embarassing. You looked at the teacher with guilt and said, 'sorry, I'm late.' Now, you quickly find the place, where your friends had already booked for you and sat down. Cool down and listen to what the teacher was saying. During pauses, you asked your friends to update you on what the teacher had talked about before you came. Let's just all assume that you came in at 330pm. you actually attended 1.5hour of lesson.

Of course, above scenario, you sent out msg at 3.10pm asking when is the break. but there's no reply except for one msg that came at about 312pm, saying that 'break just finished, you can come in.'

Now L&G, can you all figure out where's the difference?

One has to be spontaneous and not reliant. albeit the fact that 'best friends' are there to help out, but sometimes, human err too! and on the note that prop is very mindful about this lesson, all the more, she should have one thing in mind, to come to class asap.

L&G, just a slight failure of attention, leads to such disastrous misunderstanding, and tat signified something. high expectation that is. No doubt having a high expectation of a 'best friend' is normal. But how can it be just this one misunderstanding that triggers the sensitive button? Of course, there are events like the one that happened in prop's house that might trigger the sensitivity button but, would blaming the opp solve the issue of not able to attend the stats class?

would blaming the opp solve the issue of 'friendship'? would blaming the opp solve the issue of not replying the msg? etc....

To call the opp 'selfish' without finding out where the prob lies is selfish too. Not giving opportunity to explain the opp herself is tentative to pulling a blank at the opp's head instead of the chest. instant death that is.

just like what was quoted, "that's y pple always say we can't make BEST FRIENDS IN UNI. luckily i nvr treat you all as my best frens all these while! "

friends who saw this msg felt the stab right into their heart, so deeply that it damaged the aorta and the chambers. No any amount of repair was available then.

of course, being very clear-headed here, the opp strongly believes that the prop was distraught at that moment due to the sudden loom of incident happened at home and missing out on the 1st lesson of stats. But the 1st lecture touched on tutorial 1st-2nd or 3rd page.. and how we can construct a qnnaire, which we dont need to know much because it would be troublesome invalidating them. She also touched on the lab report outline.

i would seriously ask our dear adjudicators to consider this case seriously as the opp really wished that nothing of this would destroy the friendship between her and the prop. She very much treasures the prop's presence and her characteristics and rendering the fact that the opp had treated the prop as someone whom she will consult, confide and commit to.

and here, i rest my case, crossing fingers, and praying to God that this misunderstanding would clear up and hopefully, make us realised that none of us are like what the prop had thought. Amen.

I thank you all L&G for lending your ears and attention to judge this case.

*bows*