Sunday, March 22, 2009 3/22/2009 11:15:00 PM
lesson no. 15- mother's fault if the child is bad, or rather both?
erm. i kinda forgot what i wanted to say.... oh yes.. eating healthily stems from parent's teaching
besides that, the way you teach a child, the way you carry yourself and the way you talk to the kids are very important as that imprints heavily on the kids mind and characteristics..etc..
like on wed, i welcome my aunt to singapore by bringing her and her kids to VE... becos she was interested in things that will help herself, her husband and the kids... btw.. she's my dad's youngest bro's wife...
and yup, the kids were angels when they listen to you.. but when there's serious bizness going on, that is a when a very respectable man talking seriously abt the health of those who took the pulse analysis, kids who dun listen get on my nerves. even more so when my partner, mel and i were doing demo and explaining the details to my aunt.
i told the kids that they will talk later.. but it seemed that it fell on deaf earsssss. all three butt in like they are attending some class. raising hands and telling us what they feel. BUT HELLO!
AT A WRONG TIME! damn it. i no choice gotta smile... that's ok fine...
yes fine.... but not when i'm explaining and the kid taking the file and trying to put on my head and even dropping on the floor.
the mom's there and i cant tell the kid not to play... like with a serious tone! i have to keep my calm posture.. but...i know very well that i was SUPER SUPER IRRITATED BY THEM!!!
bloody hell.. seriously.. the eldest and the youngest are like the guai ones... occasionally butt in a bit.... that's still ok.. but not when the 2nd, the most dumb one who doesnt know that i'm angry!?
the 3rd one is clever..becos when mel was talking to the mom, she butt in, i made a sign that means 'shh, keep quiet first', she nodded her head and kept quiet. how clever right?
but not the 2nd one...damn it i said, dun play she kept playing. i told her to keep quiet, she kept 发小姐脾气， 板一幅丑脸。 wth, she think what? she very guai, very 千斤小姐 ah? she damn dumb la, shooting off irrelevant questionssss at the wrong timing....
she's stubborn too.. keep insisting that she wants me to sit in abit so mel can 'cuddle' in to get warmth (cos of the cold temperature). i try to explain things to her she dun listen and she dun want to listen... argh!!!
worst off, the big sister... sigh.. she is suuuuuuuuupppppppppppppppeeeeeeerrrrrrrrr unhealthy
at SUCH YOUNG AGE! guess what she eats...
ONLY CHICKEN..... NO VEGES, LITTLE WATER CONSUMPTION, PROCESSED FOOD.... etc(you can roughly guess other kinds of food she eats)
and the mom talks to her....ask her to give 'face' to her by eating 1 vege , or drink 2 mouthful of soups... etc..
and cos she's stubborn, she only insist that she eats food that are in the category 'chicken'
she drinks soda...
and who's fault is that??? it's not entirely her fault that she's that 'stubborn', refusing to eat healthy food
rather... it's like 80% of the fault lies on the mom??
1-- she claims that she gives them eat healthy food.. she herself is into healthy food, she drinks she use healthy stuff... even eating homegrown veges by her own mom...
2- but, the way she teaches her children, gives her children the misconception that she can be overrided. they would go over her head and not listen to her despite her being 苦口婆心.
she doesnt scold i guess..cos i think she cant bear to see her 3 qian jin cry... please la... heartpain to see kids cry is one thing, teaching the correct values, eating habits, dressing(another thing i feel like complaining abt...), viewpoints.... etc..... are another thing
she mixed everything up and crying over spilled milk is so no use? i know or i guess , i think she teared during the journey from VE to chinatown..
***ok, i kinda admit that my mom, and me a little were a bit too sacarstic on our words... we were talking abt her daughter's diet non stop from start to stop point... and she was like kinda helpless when she sort of talked to us how was her daughter's diet... ***
but i thought we were just 'discussing' on how to improve her diet... and alll.. she shld seriously be more open minded...if she really wants for the betterment of her daughter's health..
the nutritionist said untill very jia lat abt her daughter's diet... implications in the future when she starts puberty... and upon hearing that, i myself was shocked tooo.. at first the daughter's diet and her implication (he said that she's got the tendency to be anorexic) and 2nd, at myself..
i shld keep in track of my diet too..no more tea..no more cold(liang) stuff... i'm weak too.. look at my skin and every part of me..i feel bad... sigh
3. she's not open to new stuff... she's like finding clothes for her daughter that resembles kids from the poorer neighbourhood.. please lor.. if i am poor, i'll rather buy clothes that will show the kids maturity ...that is right kind of clothes for kids at the right age.... they are like 10,12,13 oready? and yet the clothes they wear got cartoons and the materials are like shabby?? and who asked her to keep feeding the 3rd one until there's a big 'pregnant look a like' tummy and when buying clothes, dun want to show the tummy? if dun want to have the tummy, try to cut down on oily food.. if not..accept the fact...just look at the nicer part of the clothes rather than focusing on the tummy?
4. the moral and values she teaches her daughter werent totally wrong..but she should teach her daughter to show the values atthe right time??
my dad is not like some chee ko pek ok? he's just being a little loud, sacarstic in a joking manner, and with eyes that's so big that you thought you kena arrowed by him??
my dad merely bent down to talk to the 2nd daughter, the 2nd daughter immediately siam like my dad is scaring her with a 'boo'. she's like, 'disgusted' or rather got the look of that on her face when my dad talks to her.. she runs behind her mom, and give the scared and angry look..
wth...extra la the 2nd one...
i swear that i'll teach my kids properly man.. be confident but not over until he';s unruly and speaks with no manners with the elders... and to be obedient when they need to. i'll buy him(oh, in general terms, him and her) nice clothes.. good quality... like every singaporean kids.. haha!! but not as many as some.. cos they willl grow out of them.. and i'll let them learn music... VIOLIN! lol!!
and to teach them values i've learnt.. and i myself be a good role model... oh, and let them eat healthily... wow.. such heavy responsibilities!!!
kekeke! all right, gotta go back to study what i'm supposed to do.. :P