Many of the things we do are actually doing for e sake of being socially accepted so we feel good and be guilty free. But have we actually done what we like individually? Many of the views we have and things we do are constrained by our parents teaching and the social norms...which in the same word, parents teaching.... But who develop these norms?

Who was the first person to know all these?

Perhaps it's wired in our brains by nature. And thru evolution and natural selection we shape our thinking.

Survival and personality play a large part. For e.g., u keep giving pple e good stuff and u are livin in a harmonious village. But someone of a more selfish  personality would feel that e sharing issue is a stupid thing.

Hence, they would talk to their family and warn them. soon, they began to be critical of many things... unless the person does something they think it's satisfying, yes, that's social acceptance.

OR if you're the oddity among a group of pple, say like you speak really of a lower standard, or your english is not that powder ful...the english speaking people would not give a heck of who you are. Becos they cant communicate anything with you. you got no sense o humour, you're outta the group. so if one wants to be in that group, one has to learn the ropes of the group's special traits or characters... etc...

just like the badminton case i went thru, i cant socialise well cos they are all... like... one gang oready...gettin into their group requires effort... that is humour (perhaps), be knowledgeable... cos you're 21... and the other girl whom i knw of is called Sandra is in sec, saint canossia  blah blah, (i dun wish to bother wat is it), she got this 'look down on me' look and she was like, er ok, i dunno what are you talking about becos your eng is not good and ure not open not socializing...

another would be of course the most impt one, BADMINTON SKILLS. if not, dun even think of gettin into their good books! i just need to be daring to take up the challenge of social rejection... first.

daring to ask and speak proper eng, before i can be socially accepted by them. so afterall, i'm doing what the society asked me. the social norm tat is...

why cant i just go against the flow, and be myself for a day.. do my things... and not look at anyone's face for a living?? i cant obviously. im someone who is so concerned over how people think of me and what kind of person in someone's eyes. i dun like the looks on people when they look so doubtful of me.

They are torturous to me. why? becos i know i need them so i can succeed... without them, the chance of getting an opportunity to perform would be gone.

I know of the usual saying, 'then go against it. be the first to revolutionise'... blah blah blah...

yes the courage and all are the main elements but to come to think of it, are the people you're going to ignore, impt?? Better not step on the tails you know?! IF not who noes, they might be the one who defines the social acceptance measurement.

Just smile and be witty... in any case one is faced with unbearable definer of social acceptance, just smile and instead, prove your worth such that there is nothing they can pick on you to scold. :D

that's why, facing challenges is a way to make you more 'holy' more impenetrable to insults but earn more respects.  Be smart to knw what kind of measurements of social acceptance are used first! ;D